These questions are questions I found on http://www.expressiveartworkshop.com
Good questions to ask yourself when you are sick:
1.) If I could name two hidden parts of myself that are in conflict right now, what would they be? What are their names?
Healing and productivity/ usefulness
2.) What does each side of the conflict want?
The healing part of me wants this time to myself to do what I want and what I need to do. It wants me to rest. The productive/ useful side of me feels I have to, I need to, justify my existence. I do not feel entitled to take this time for myself.
3.) How do I need to grow in order to resolve this conflict?
I need to learn to value my time off and give myself permission to heal, spiritually and/or physically.
4.) How am I needing to be loved right now?
I always need reassurance from friends and family and to get “permission” to do things for myself/ put myself first. “No” was not an okay word to say to family when I was growing up. It was unacceptable. I want to know unequivocally that I am loved and valued and worthy, that I don’t have to earn that love, that I don’t have to justify my existence, my worthiness.
5.) How can I ask for that love or give it to myself?
I want a hug, a real hug. I want a hug from someone I admire and value and I want to feel valued by that person and trust in that. I don’t want to always second guess my relationships and the qualities of those relationships. I want to know I am loved and I am special to that person(s).
Give that love to myself? That is hard for me to determine. It cannot be something as superficial as aquiring an item I want or allowing myself to eat a food I want. Even engaging in an activity I enjoy is not completely satisfying either. It is difficult when much of my validation comes from external sources. I like creating something I can take pride in, perhaps that is the way to give love to myself?